I try to give my kids as much individualized attention as possible. Some days I feel like this is totally attainable, and other days I feel like I'm fighting a never ending battle. Every day without fail Evan & Jack both receive time with me, that is all theirs. It may not be time that is spent doing something hysterically fun, but I try my best to make our time together as fun as possible. I do therapy with them Monday thru Friday, and I love to have that individual time one on one with them. Whether it's first thing in the morning, having them help me get the clothes for the day, or simply doing tasks around the house, they get time with me.
With the other three kids, I find that sometimes just spending time with Mommy doesn't cut it. Sometimes I have to have something fun going on in order to keep them entertained. I can totally understand this... Our au pair Adriana is pretty kick butt... She loves to dance with them, sing, play games, she has FAR more energy than I do on any given day, so it's no wonder that the kids love her so. Heck, I love her!
Regardless, I still try so hard to get the kids out of the group and spend the time with them individually. I think it's also really good for me as their Mom, I love having just one kiddo... It allows me to see how the other half lives.
This morning, I noticed Ellie was being especially clingy. Not really fussy, but just clingy. Hugging me a lot, wanting to give me a lot of kisses, and overall just loving on me. She can be a very lovable child when she wants to be. I knew that I had errands that I needed to run this morning, and the thought of leaving her behind made me a little sad... So I packed her up and brought her along with me. All of my chores were short enough that she was easily entertained, and we were home very quickly. I loved having her with me...
I noticed however, that while we were driving, from the back seat, she said to me in her very tiny voice "Mommy? Is Jackie?" "Mommy? Is Weeyem?" "You Ok?"
I had to feel a little bad at that point, because I had to tell Ellie, that her brothers were at home... That they were with Adriana... That they were in fact ok, but regardless, they weren't here. She was missing her siblings... It's funny, that even though we were out of the house doing something fun, she would have rather had been back in this house fighting with them.