Let me start by telling you something you probably already knew. My boys? They're Triplets. They shared a womb, they shared a crib, they shared bottles, clothes, binkies, infections... They shared it all. The thoughts of separating them at any point in time kind of saddens me. By separating them, I mean keeping them apart and giving any one of them special treatment over another one.
I kind of started "separating them" a few years back when I put William in a local preschool, and I didn't enroll Evan or Jack. That seemed to sit more comfortably with me though, since I knew that they just weren't ready for that sort of atmosphere just yet. As soon as I was able to have them all in the same space again, I really felt that I jumped at the opportunity. We're now encountering this again with homeschooling William, and sending the other two boys off to public schools. Separation right? Again, it seems justifiable because I just can't keep Evan & Jack home. I wouldn't be doing them any good... They need to be educated in a way that I just can't provide.
What about at home though? At some point I know that I realized that we were raising three very different children. That while they were triplets, they really did need things of their "own". That sometimes making the assumption that they would all need, or more importantly want the same thing was kind of irrational. Quite possibly, my thinking was a little selfish. I was thinking this was a lot of times out of convenience. I mean, it's certainly a lot easier to have a cabinet full of one type of bottle as opposed to trying to keep things separated for three kids. I did that out of convenience for myself...
So now, my boys who shared my womb, quite possibly need separate rooms. Evan & Jack need to go to bed a bit earlier in the evening (around 645p) and they tend to sleep a bit later. If they aren't disrupted, they are able to sit and play nicely in their room for an extended period of time without complaining, unless of course they have a need for something. We have realized however, that when William is in the room, things are far less smooth. William tends to want to stay up just a little later at night, and seems to wake up at the BUTT CRACK OF DAWN. The bedtime, isn't as much of an issue... It's the wake time... Oh my goodness. As soon as he wakes up, he is banging on the door trying to get out. Yelling that he needs to go potty, pretty much doing anything in order to get OUT of the room. This behavior led to William sleeping in our room for a number of months... As you can imagine, a 4 year old in your room isn't really the coolest thing in the world. So we tried to slowly wean him back into his space... It didn't go well. Waking early, and needing to get out was a constant issue. For whatever reason, Jon ended up putting William in our guest bedroom one night two weeks ago. He has never gone back to his room, he's now calling the guest room "his room" and asking if he ever has to go back to "brothers room".
This is where I'm torn. I don't want to give him his own space... I don't want to lose my guest room... I don't want him away from his brothers... I don't, I don't, I don't... But, what about William? What about Evan & Jack? It's not really about me is it?